We think of childhood rites of passage as the big things, the things that are widely celebrated and photographed. Such rites include the first day of school, riding a bike without training wheels, and confirmation or bar or bat mitzvahs. These biggies help the child and families (and community) accept the child’s changing role.
However, we all know that maturation takes place on a continuum. As wonderful as the celebrations and acknowledgements are, they’re not the only moments that matter. If we think about it, we all had moments that marked an achievement for us that weren’t celebrated—or even acknowledged. Often we couldn’t even articulate or share them.