Sharing your personality like a photo does

Sharing your personality through your stories might involve loosening the heart strings a little.

Make sure you’re sharing your personality along with your memories and stories. Telling your stories isn’t only about the past. It’s also about connecting with loved ones now—and into the future. Make sure you’re infusing accounts of long ago with your  feelings, character and individuality.

Sharing your Personality by Including your Feelings

It’s our feelings about our past that makes it so important to tell our stories.

Memoirist Marilyn Abildskov  notes, “There are many reasons to write, but one of the most time-honored is this: we have some strong feeling we want to convey. We miss the small red house of our childhood, the smell of our grandmother’s soap, the slant of our father’s handwriting, the perfect meal we had with someone in a seaside town many years ago. We write out of longing, out of memory, out of happiness, out of regret.”[1]

Including your feelings about past events is a great way of sharing your personality through your stories. Make sure you include how you felt about what happened. You can do that by stating how you felt or by how you tell your story. (That’s a whole other post.)

Likewise, when you write about relatives and ancestors, let your affection for him or her shine through your writing. Better yet, go ahead and spell out what they mean or meant to you. This will not only help your readers connect better with you. It will help them connect with the person you’re writing about.

Write about Changes in Perspective.

In other words, mix some now with your then’s.

As you write about an episode of the past, write about how your perspective has changed. I distinctly remember telling myself as a child that when I had kids I would never, ever, say “because I said so.” I also remember, fighting to keep those words from crossing my lips and thinking to myself, “Wow, this is hard! It would be soooo much easier to say, “because I said so!”

Looking back at your memory episodes, do you still feel the same say you felt as events unfolded? How have your feelings changed? What caused the change in perspective? This sort of introspection doesn’t always come easily. However, it’s a way of sharing your personality and character with your loved ones.

Limit Your Rainbow and Ponies

Sharing your personality behind the smile

Writing only about happy times gives a distorted view. Sharing your personality means letting others see the real you.

If life isn’t all rainbows and ponies then your writing shouldn’t be either. Don’t limit your stories to the happy ones. Go ahead and write about the sad and difficult times. Your feelings will flow naturally on the page as your relate those memories with a strong emotional component. Telling the stories that are important to you let your readers get to know you. Writing about

Write about Who You Are Now

You can instill your personality into your memory collection by simply writing about your current self. You can do this with questionnaires, exercises, journal prompts, or simply by simply including an entry from your journal. (Hint: Memories of Me has tons of ideas for this.)


[1] “Feeling to Form: A One-day Memoir Workshop,” St. Mary’s College of California, accessed March 24, 2014, https://www.stmarys-ca.edu/feeling-to-form-a-one-day-memoir-workshop.

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