What glasses do you wear?
We’re all writing through glasses of some sort. Our world-view, personality, and life experiences affect our writing. Intentionally or not, we provide readers with a filter or lens.
This means that when you write about your memories, your writing is the filter through which your loved ones will come to understand the episodes of your past.
Perhaps the question makes more sense now. What type of glasses do you wear? What type of filter to do you lend to your readers?