Apr 082013

Writing about kids is a “must” for most memory collectors.

Writing about kids show their devilish side

They weren’t smiling for the camera. They were up to something.

How many times have you recounted a story about your kids and received the response:

“You’ve got to write that one down!”

Well, go ahead and do it! Whether your journalling, scrapbooking, or writing your memories, write down some of your kids’ more memorable moments. Don’t forget to note the date and add photos when you can. Continue reading »

Apr 012013

Staci Trioio, who shared her Recipe for Posterity earlier this month,  has extended a generous invitation for me to guest post today on her blog.  The subject?  The importance of sharing Memories.
Come join me at her blog, stacitrioio.com and read Why You Should Write About Your Memories.

Holy Bible

No one criticizes the Bible reader

writing for your family is like reading a Bible in church and why you should get started.

…Since I’m not allowed to write about my actual kids, I’ll use a hypothetical kid as an example. (Disclaimer in case my actual kids read this: I’m in no way implying that the subject of this story did anything less than an exemplary job of reading the Bible in church.) Continue reading »

Mar 272013

Write, don’t brag about your kids! We all hate receiving the dreaded brag letter. Writing about them is not bragging about them–at least not necessarily. With a little finesse, writing about your kids without bragging becomes easy.

spoonful-of-sugar not bragging 1.  Use your tact:

A spoonful of sugar does “help the medicine go down.” It can also stave of competitiveness as it sweetens the pot. By all means, include accomplishments. Just take a little care in how you mention it. Compare the following sentences:

Bragging: “My daughter is amazing. Not only is she the soccer MVP, but the field hockey high scorer as well.”

Not bragging (at least not nearly so much): “Georgette is a gifted athlete, but is painfully shy off of the field.

Admittedly, the second sentence took longer to craft. It does, however, tell us more about Georgette’s personality. It’s worth the editing effort.

2.  Put yourself in your readers’ glasses

Bragging often puts people off, which means that they won’t get to know your child as well. Not bragging can help your readers connect with your child. Think about the people who will eventually read what you’ve written. Have you provided them with what they really want to know about your child? Have you given them a feel for his or her character?  Which brings us to the next point:

Picture with personality

Revealing personalities

3. Focus on their personality

Another way to make sure you’re not bragging as you write is to describe their budding personality. Keep this in mind when selecting which photos to include as well; look for images that capture their character.

The more you readers can envision what your child is like, the more likely they are to feel a bond. (A simple, but great example is Bumble-Bee Sweet Potato’s “ten things I love about my daughter.“)

4:  Write about kids’ passions

What was or is your child’s passion? Does he dress up like Captain Underwear? Collect reptiles? Is he or she creative? As long as you avoid superlatives (he’s the best artist, she’s better than all the others), writing about their passions is not bragging.

As they grow, it can be fun to describe how you feel about their changing passions. Do you miss Thomas the Tank? Are you relieved not to have to drive them to dance class four times a week? Has a new passion replaced an old?

Again, wording can make the difference:

Brag: “Sophie can draw better than any of the other kids in the class.”

Not bragging: “Sophie can hardly look at an object without wanting to draw it.”

5:  Provide a glimpse into a typical day

Consider describing a typical afternoon or outing. What kind of things do you do? How do the kids relate to each other? Write about the little episodes or everyday life. (Example: Scene from Behind)

Need More Ideas?

Memories of Me: A Complete Guide to Telling and Sharing the Stories of Your Life has more in-depth ideas on writing without bragging as well as helpful brainstorming sheets to help you get started.

Mar 252013

No bragging about kids

So what’s so bad about bragging? It depends on your audience. If you are writing for your parents, who already adore their grand-kids, then there’s nothing wrong with it.

However, if you’re writing for a wider audience, i.e., loved ones that have kids of their own, a little finesse might be called for. Why? Continue reading »