Apr 252017
 

Romance stories aren’t only for the young. We’ve always known that. But still, it’s the stories of youthful innocence and falling in love that make the best seller lists. The stories of couples entering their seventh decade of marriage make the back pages.romance stories one for the ages

But those long relationships started somewhere, a lot of times with young love. And these stories get better with age.

Last week I sat in a hospital room with two people I dearly love, both in their mid-eighties. A palliative care professional was trying to get the man, recovering from a stroke, to think about “outcomes” and “interventions.” She asked, “How would you feel about it, if you couldn’t go home? If you had to go to a nursing facility?” Continue reading »

Feb 092015
 
Cupid stories of the heart

Cupid can pin down great stories of the heart.

Valentine’s Day brings to mind sweethearts, chocolates, flowers, loving or romantic gestures, and sweet nothings–even when “sweet nothing” is literally all we have. In addition to providing a huge sales opportunity to the greeting card industry, Valentine’s Day causes us to pause and reflect on our stories of the heart. We reflect on what we have, what we have lost, and everything in between.

Since, if you buy into my theory, you’re already thinking about it, take a little time around Valentine’s Day to describe the great loves of your life or share the stories of the heart. Likewise, this time of year also lends itself to extracting some of those stories from family members.

Unspoken History to Oral History to Written Stories of the Heart

You’d be surprised how little prompting some folks need when it comes to a subject near and dear to them—the people they love.

Stories of the heart start at the very beginning.

I’m a great believer in prompts, as you might have noticed. They are especially effective when it comes to teasing out the lesser known aspects of familiar stories. Perhaps the facts of the story are known, but the nuances are missing. For instance, others often know how we met our spouses. What they perhaps don’t know is how we initially felt about our spouse-to-be or significant other.

For instance, I recently read at the Henry Ford Museum that Coretta Scott King had misgivings about the prospect of marrying a preacher. She wasn’t sure she was cut out to be a pastor’s wife. Looking back over her life, that’s such a cool plum of information to understand. Such tidbits add great dimension and texture to stories, especially when others think they already know the whole story.

How we feel now

It’s especially fun to ask older folks how they feel about their long-time partner. If they’ve been married a quarter of a century or more, their stories of the heart are seldom told. A lot of things have become unsaid. It’s a nice chance for them to put their sentiments into words. Of course, the same applies if it’s our own story.

Ask for or Give Advice:

What advice would you give young couples starting out? Over what did you worry too much? What did you take for granted? What would you do differently? These make great interview questions as well as do-it-yourself writing prompts.

Rose bud Stories of the Heart as Metaphors

As much as I love metaphors, the metaphor of blossoming love, doesn’t work for the memory writer. Seldom does love move smoothly from bud to full bloom. It can explode into being. It can fade and re-bloom.

What metaphor works for the relationship you’re writing about? Fireworks that go forever? Fireworks over deep water? A trick birthday candle that can’t be blown out? A climbing vine that rises above adversity –or one that occasionally hangs on by its fingertips.

Your Turn:

You get the idea. Tell a story you’ve never told before or tell it in a new way.

 

 

 

Jun 102014
 
Elopement memories happy couple

Our elopement memories don’t include photos, but this was taken around that time.

In my book, I intersperse ideas on what to write about with memories of my own. Today, I feel moved to do the same here on my blog.

Twenty-six years ago today, my husband and I eloped but didn’t call off the wedding. Looking back, I regard that decision to be one of the best I ever made. Not just marrying Matt—the whole thing. We treasure having elopement memories. It was a day to remember just between the two of us—but we’re also glad we have wedding day memories as well. Continue reading »

Jun 022014
 

Craft-Squad-I-doWelcome to my stop on the Craft Squad’s “I Do” Blog Hop. If you’re coming from The Crafty Neighbor you are in the right place.  If you want to start at the beginning, go to Roxie’s Stamping Rooms at http://roxiesstampingroom.blogspot.com/2014/06/june-blog-hop-i-do.html.

Ideally wedding pictures should do more than memorialize the event. Photos and scrapbook layouts should tell a story–a story that began long before the ring was offered on bended knee. This scrapbook layout takes advantage of a wonderful photographer who came up with a way to help the bride always remember wedding dreams coming true.

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Feb 052014
 

Craft Squad Love is in the Air Blog Hop When we think about romance, we think about young love—star-crossed lovers and all that. We often forget to honor the enduring relationships. When you remember the romance, don’t forget to remember the long-term love affairs of older family members.

Today’s post is part of the Craft Squad’s “Love is in the Air” February Blog Hop. To start at the beginning of the hop, please visit The Crafty Neighbor where you can learn how you can win cool crafting prizes. If you’re coming from Stamp-Patty’s, you’re in the right place. Continue reading »

Jun 152013
 

Blog Hop Scrapbook Tutorial Today’s post is part of the June Blog Hop and offers a scrapbook tutorial for my interpretation of our “What June Means to Me…” theme.

What does June mean to you? We hope our interpretations will provide you with some inspiration. If you’re coming from Cindy Murray’s Crafty Neighbor blog at http://craftyneighbor.blogspot.com/2013/06/june-blog-hop.html, you’re at the right place.

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Apr 142013
 

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Scrapbook pages are a great way to memorialize special moments and events. Today’s post describes preserving the love and excitement involved in welcoming a new family member, as well as for conveying the excitement and anticipation leading up to a family wedding.

Today’s post is part of the LinkedIn April Showers Blog Hop. I’m glad you’re here.  If you are coming from Cindy Murray’s  The Crafty Neighbor, you are in the right place! (If you landed here first and want to do the full hop, start here. ) Continue reading »